Every little bit of quality, one-on-one time together strengthens the parent-child bond and builds their self-esteem. While correction is an essential aspect of parenting, it is most effective when grounded in a strong and loving connection between parent and child. When children feel connected to their parents, they are more receptive to guidance and correction, leading to healthier development and stronger relationships. The next time you feel tempted to resort to spanking or scolding, pause and take a deep breath. Calmly addressing the behavior and discussing why it’s unacceptable creates a soothing environment. Offer guidance to help them learn from the situation and make better choices in the future. Remind yourself that physical punishment or lecturing proves ineffective because it often leads to fear, resentment, and defiance in children rather than fostering understanding and positive behavior change. How do you want your children to remember you decades from now? games, and it’s frustrating when time runs out.” Then, suggest finding a compromise together, such as setting a timer or agreeing on specific times for screen use. 5. Positive Discipline: Connection-based parenting focuses on teaching and guiding rather than punishing. Instead of simply correcting behavior, parents can help children understand the impact of their actions, learn from their mistakes, and develop problemsolving skills. This approach promotes self-discipline and encourages children to make positive choices even when parents are not present. For example, if your child forgets to do their homework, discuss the importance of responsibility and problem-solving instead of punishing them. Help them come up with a plan to remember their homework in the future, such as setting reminders or creating a checklist. 108 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2024 “This approach promotes self-discipline and encourages children to make positive choices even when parents are not present.”
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